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Shamed… Now what?


So the entire nation along with the capital city is up in arms. Seems like finally it has crossed the tipping point and the nation has started moving towards some activity. I sincerely hope that this time it’s just not show of anger against the perpetrators and solidarity with the victim for a few days but eagerness to finally ensure some solution. But every time I look at the news coverage or read it on the paper, somehow am unable to withhold my emotions. Unknowingly a few droplets find their way out of my eyes. The heart has gone numb. Couldn’t write or think of anything else.

As usual when I started looking at the views from fellow countrymen, and sadly it was again the same old rant. Some were angry on the government and its mechanism, some blamed the political parties , some religions, regions and some as usual the females themselves. Yet no one actually had a concrete solution. Made me wonder that isn’t this same anger behind all the crimes against the fairer sex? So what is the solution? My mind was just unable to accept that any of these so-called solutions will just wave a magic wand and all the trouble for the females would go.

In my heart, as usual, I believed that it needs a long-term approach. I believed that we need to change the mindset. We as a nation need to believe that both the sexes are equal and need to be treated as equal. And the solution needs to start at home. Each one of us needs to teach our next generation how to behave with the females. Then I came across several write-ups, such as the one by IHM, at Hindu, by Shilpa and Anand. And could not but agree with them. The chain of thought was quite similar to mine. But still it was either anger or a long-term solution.  So does that mean that the millennia’s of social injustice cannot be changed in one generation or a decade for that matter? What till then? Will 50% of our nation keep suffering? And what happens if some of our present generation fails to teach the next generation? Do we have to only wait till the system AND the mindset change – and pray that it changes fast? Can’t we do anything ourselves?

The mind kept roaming – the anguish of helplessness made my shoulder blades stiffen. With all my pride of coming up with a solution for so many issues faced by people, where is the solution now? And to find out how other countries are addressing the issue – I was more surprised than ever. It’s not India alone. The “Violence Against Women” is a global phenomena. Whether it is Somalia or USA, Bolivia or Australia, it’s the same grim picture everywhere. The picture looks a bit better in China but whether it is an actual picture or due to lack of genuine data available was not clear. Well France, Spain and couple of other European countries seemed a bit better. The data for Sweden, Germany or Australia might look a bit skewed because of how they define “Rape”. But then that’s how it is in those countries. They ARE more sensitive to it because that’s what their society demands. Yet it was amply clear that it was not a National issue. I was very clear in my mind that it was not the system, not the political class, or regions, education, wealth – its plain simple male arrogance hit hard by female advancement. The oppressed class is coming out of their veil and men can’t take it anymore. They are becoming more and more brazen day by day. And it is getting aided by low conviction rate and social apathy.

Then it stuck – and the bleak ray of idea kept circling in my head. And when I read last morning the 6 Point Action Plan that TOI came out with, my smile was just a teeny bit wider. Of course all that it says, such as awareness of people and sensitization of policemen is required. But they will only give you results in long-term.  Sometime back a few incidents of eve-teasing on metro created quite a flutter, and a number of groups came forward to help with their action. Add to that a few technical apps such as Cell Phone tracker apps, sms message sender and cheap web cams. So the idea is to create a group of “Citizen For Women’s Safety”. Then these volunteers will:

  1. Register their Mobile numbers and location
  2. Help seekers call the registered distress number
  3. The Software locates caller location, and alerts all the members available nearest to it
  4. Volunteers rush to be available in numbers to help the help seekers
  5. The software also alerts police as an additional measure
  6. As an additional coverage, put as many web cams as possible on your home (that are near main roads and crossings) facing the street.
  7. The central server keeps record of all camera’s for a fixed number of days, to refer back if required.
  8. Activities of offenders recorded on web cams or mobile phones gets uploaded on the web site
  9. Any offender if identified and implicated by multiple person goes up on “Board of Shame”
  10. Tag these offenders socially

I know whenever there is a new initiative, there will be a lot of detractors and Nay Sayers. And on the other hand there will be a handful who might get wrongly implicated. But as male (who has firsthand experience of this kind of wrongful implicated, yet) I would say I am ready to be one those handful people who might get wrongly implicated to ensure that a much larger females might get benefited  Till such time that we have enough number of Police on street, helpful and effective, we can try to aid the system instead just being angry and blaming everyone.

What I am suggesting is just an idea that I wanted to share – and will try to see if I can reach mass and get support to put in place. Alternatively even if someone else gets the vibe and creates an even better idea and puts it forward before me – that will be even better. I simply don’t want to be “just angry” and continue the blame game!!

This post is part of the contest Who is to be blamed? on WriteUpCafe.com

Its not about the dress…

This is a rejoinder to my last post…

Since the day I posted last, I have been making the rounds of blogs and news reports; looking at how fellow Indians are responding. And the inevitable has already started to poke its ugly head. As soon as the initial wave of angst passed over, the average Indian male and a sizeable portion of Indian females have started to talk again – about how it’s the females who invite the crime against themselves. They won’t come out in media or ‘on records’ in numbers (though you will always find a couple of them, pitching in with their comments on popular blogs), but you talk to them one on one or off the records, and you won’t be surprised (at least not me) how blatantly they will keep pointing to all the girls wearing a dress they feel fashionable.

Argue with them, with data and psychological analysis of offenders and they wont batter their eyelids to rubbish all reports, data, statistics and experts. Most of them are either ignorant about any such statistics and data, or would knowingly turn a blind eye to them.

For all those escapists I am trying to put across some information again (knowing that it might be futile – yet!).

Go through the data on “National Crime Record Bureau” , and the analysis of it made by Maps4Aid – and you would know that only 2.73% of rape and other sexual offences are made by complete strangers. Go through the list of 230 cases of violence against women reported in Media during 2011, and you will know the picture. If 97.27% or cases are committed by people known to victim, and as evident from reports – were premeditated, can there be any doubt that it’s not dress but the intension of the perpetrator that’s the cause?

Let’s talk about the miniscule 2.73% of cases that were committed by total strangers. A report on a section of the jailed accused brings forward 4 distinct categories of rapists. More than half of which are committed by one particular “Type” – “Power-assertive rapist”. And how and who does he target? –

“More often than not, this is the type who commits date rapes. He typically meets his victim in a bar or nightclub. Instead of targeting a specific victim, he looks for an opportunity to get a woman alone with him, perhaps with an offer of a ride home or an invitation back to his place. Or he may con his victim into trusting him or letting him into her home, perhaps by posing as a policeman or repairman.”

Does this look like the female invited these guys? A look at how they chose their targets shows, yes they may look at the dress and hairstyle (!!) of the victim; but not to see if its provocative, but to judge if its easy to remove and if the girl looks submissive enough. Submissive to the extent that she won’t fight back or report it to the authorities.

The statistics we can lay our hands on are on reported cases – where as we just saw that the very target of the offenders is to choose victims who won’t report! Isn’t it reasonable now to accept that the numbers we see are miniscule? As per IHM – “1 in 69” get reported ! Rubbing salt to injury – the data on NCRB site shows, though more than 96% of the cases get charge-sheeted, only 45.8% cases of sexual harassment and a dismal 27.7% cases of Molestation gets conviction. And we have not yet spoken about the time taken for conviction!

Why don’t they report? Because the people to whom they will go to report are from this same society which puts the blame of the girl – same people who blatantly puts it on clothes female wear, while their own statistics shows something very different. Thanks to the relentless activism I read the cabinet has passed the amendments, by which the victims past and character can no longer be questioned by either the police or the court !

So what happens to those “hapless poor guys” who gets convicted? Just 7-10 years of imprisonment for a injury caused for a lifetime! Government seems to have woken up to make some amends – but is that enough? Some of the suggestions like “Chemical Castration” by IHM and others mentioned by Bikramjit and “fightback” seem to quite just. My opinion is right where it was – to all Indian males – i

“f you do want your future generations (males) to be humiliated and tramped by female uprising, mend your ways and start learning how to respect the needs and wishes of the other gender!”

P.S. – I am sure the incidents of “Juhu Mumbai / Jan 2008” and (no so old) “Gurgaon / Jan 2012”  are fading from our collective memory and we have no idea what happened to the arrested offenders!

In search of a better solution…

In recent days, which ever blog of substance I am going to – I just see how apathetic we collectively have become about females and their rights. From Law-makers to Law-enforcers to individuals, none are sensitive to the reality of female feeling. In fact a huge portion of female population too have been brainwashed and systematically turned against their own gender. hence whichever point I try to think could be a starting point seems hopeless. Because the primary fault as i keep shouting lies with each one of us.

While there is no doubt in my mind that unless each one of us as individual, both male and female start sensitizing our young ones, we have no hope for a better future; there is also need to do something drastic to tackle the issue going out of hand. Unless we want to see a civil war with females rising against males in near future – I feel we need some huge and drastic steps.

As I heard one activist pointing out on NDTV that its not the law but the enforcement that is prime need, I agreed to her. We already have enough laws ! We do not need to wait till a better law comes up. Lets enforce what we have till we can work out something new.  And lets do something drastic like – an All  Female army of police; in every state to start with, and like an emergency situation declared, hand over the entire policing of a town / city / district depending upon the maximum crime against females for the state. If our male polices are in-sensitive against the 50% of the civil society, let them not manage the Civilian policing and move them to other roles – such as fighting Terrorism and tax evaders.

As and when needed keep giving more powers to females as police, magistrates and judges. Turn cities and districts to females and lets see if they can fare better. Though I know how laws favoring females are used against a handful hapless and law-abiding males, yet I feel this is a option worth trying.

Please note, I am not talking about one all female police  station,  or one all-female court (that we have tried – and I feel are too few and far between to have any significant effect) but going all out in towns – cities and districts. We have seen how our mothers raised us, so lets see those mothers raise the nation too.

A lot of females (and some males too) have started thinking about building vigilante groups – perhaps a sign of things to come in future? Now most hush them up by saying “An eye for an eye – would make the world blind” – but does that mean that we are ready to have a nation full of one-eyed citizens? A jail term for humiliating another individual? What makes us believe that even if its a 7 year term, its going to reform the person? If its a 20+ years person committing the crime, what makes us believe that our Jails are such huge Psychological reform centers that they can undo the person’s psyche that has developed over 20 years in just 7 years of imprisonment? Are we ready to pay to turn our jails into super efficient psychological reform centers? Or should we need to revert back to shock treatments of yesteryears? My belief – if we do not want a country full of one eyed citizens need some to go blind (not one eye for an eye but both) so that others don’t lose either of their eyes !