Shamed… Now what?

 Shamed 

So the entire nation along with the capital city is up in arms. Seems like finally it has crossed the tipping point and the nation has started moving towards some activity. I sincerely hope that this time it’s just not show of anger against the perpetrators and solidarity with the victim for a few days but eagerness to finally ensure some solution. But every time I look at the news coverage or read it on the paper, somehow am unable to withhold my emotions. Unknowingly a few droplets find their way out of my eyes. The heart has gone numb. Couldn’t write or think of anything else.

As usual when I started looking at the views from fellow countrymen, and sadly it was again the same old rant. Some were angry on the government and its mechanism, some blamed the political parties , some religions, regions and some as usual the females themselves. Yet no one actually had a concrete solution. Made me wonder that isn’t this same anger behind all the crimes against the fairer sex? So what is the solution? My mind was just unable to accept that any of these so-called solutions will just wave a magic wand and all the trouble for the females would go.

In my heart, as usual, I believed that it needs a long-term approach. I believed that we need to change the mindset. We as a nation need to believe that both the sexes are equal and need to be treated as equal. And the solution needs to start at home. Each one of us needs to teach our next generation how to behave with the females. Then I came across several write-ups, such as the one by IHM, at Hindu, by Shilpa and Anand. And could not but agree with them. The chain of thought was quite similar to mine. But still it was either anger or a long-term solution.  So does that mean that the millennia’s of social injustice cannot be changed in one generation or a decade for that matter? What till then? Will 50% of our nation keep suffering? And what happens if some of our present generation fails to teach the next generation? Do we have to only wait till the system AND the mindset change – and pray that it changes fast? Can’t we do anything ourselves?

The mind kept roaming – the anguish of helplessness made my shoulder blades stiffen. With all my pride of coming up with a solution for so many issues faced by people, where is the solution now? And to find out how other countries are addressing the issue – I was more surprised than ever. It’s not India alone. The “Violence Against Women” is a global phenomena. Whether it is Somalia or USA, Bolivia or Australia, it’s the same grim picture everywhere. The picture looks a bit better in China but whether it is an actual picture or due to lack of genuine data available was not clear. Well France, Spain and couple of other European countries seemed a bit better. The data for Sweden, Germany or Australia might look a bit skewed because of how they define “Rape”. But then that’s how it is in those countries. They ARE more sensitive to it because that’s what their society demands. Yet it was amply clear that it was not a National issue. I was very clear in my mind that it was not the system, not the political class, or regions, education, wealth – its plain simple male arrogance hit hard by female advancement. The oppressed class is coming out of their veil and men can’t take it anymore. They are becoming more and more brazen day by day. And it is getting aided by low conviction rate and social apathy.

Then it stuck – and the bleak ray of idea kept circling in my head. And when I read last morning the 6 Point Action Plan that TOI came out with, my smile was just a teeny bit wider. Of course all that it says, such as awareness of people and sensitization of policemen is required. But they will only give you results in long-term.  Sometime back a few incidents of eve-teasing on metro created quite a flutter, and a number of groups came forward to help with their action. Add to that a few technical apps such as Cell Phone tracker apps, sms message sender and cheap web cams. So the idea is to create a group of “Citizen For Women’s Safety”. Then these volunteers will:

  1. Register their Mobile numbers and location
  2. Help seekers call the registered distress number
  3. The Software locates caller location, and alerts all the members available nearest to it
  4. Volunteers rush to be available in numbers to help the help seekers
  5. The software also alerts police as an additional measure
  6. As an additional coverage, put as many web cams as possible on your home (that are near main roads and crossings) facing the street.
  7. The central server keeps record of all camera’s for a fixed number of days, to refer back if required.
  8. Activities of offenders recorded on web cams or mobile phones gets uploaded on the web site
  9. Any offender if identified and implicated by multiple person goes up on “Board of Shame”
  10. Tag these offenders socially

I know whenever there is a new initiative, there will be a lot of detractors and Nay Sayers. And on the other hand there will be a handful who might get wrongly implicated. But as male (who has firsthand experience of this kind of wrongful implicated, yet) I would say I am ready to be one those handful people who might get wrongly implicated to ensure that a much larger females might get benefited  Till such time that we have enough number of Police on street, helpful and effective, we can try to aid the system instead just being angry and blaming everyone.

What I am suggesting is just an idea that I wanted to share – and will try to see if I can reach mass and get support to put in place. Alternatively even if someone else gets the vibe and creates an even better idea and puts it forward before me – that will be even better. I simply don’t want to be “just angry” and continue the blame game!!

This post is part of the contest Who is to be blamed? on WriteUpCafe.com

8 responses to “Shamed… Now what?

  1. exactly now what ? nobody wants to do anything about that .. ?

    this happened a few months ago in guwahati outrage , so many write and many of them already forgotten even the ones who wrote and created so much noise

  2. I sympathize for for all those who faced any kind of atrocities, but in this particular case I am not in favor of capital punishment. Please understand it is an easy way out for these animals. My opinion is to pull out their innards the SAME WAY, they did with the girl. By inserting a rusted iron rod in their anal orifice and pull out their intestines. Stomp over it and leave these 6 animals on the entire stretch of the road they performed this heinous crime. This may sound horrific, but this is the punishment required in order to prevent such offence.

    • While I fully empathize with the anger in everyone including you, I fail to react to anger as reactionary emotion! Because those are only momentary. What we need to do my friend is something that stops everyone from doing this again; and anger “alone” rarely gives you the result!

  3. for once reading something really practical. i dont count much on police, really but sincere volunteers may be real help. the process you have said is perfect, foolproof.

    will you mind if i share your ten points, mentioning the post ofcourse with my readers too, you can never know it may become lifesaver in future…..

    • that’s exactly what I want.. to share more and spread the idea.. and exactly the way you said – you can never know -it can be life saver for someone !

      • thanks indrajit, i will share them in thursday blogs, in january. you know, i believe these ideas should be spread far and wide, for the sake of safety of innocents.

  4. Very good post. Totally agree with you on that, . And there are some good examples of that in the world. Check a link to Tahir Bodyguards in my post at http://otrazhenie.wordpress.com/2013/01/09/real-men-are-true-supermen/

    When I was studing in a Russian University, I’ve heard some young students forming a group called ‘White Angels’ that was helping female students to get safely home from the Unversity and get safely around the campus after dark if help was required.

    It won’t solve the problem 100%, but can potentially save quite a lot of people, including good males, viciously attacked by mobs of bastards. Let’s face it – those bastards, who are viciously attacking women, will be as vicious and nasty to other males as well. And they will often be operating in a pack… Unfortunately, in those places, where police is not able to protect people, it comes to ordinary citizens to get together and do something about it. People can either hide and hope that it won’t happen to them, their families and close friends or they can start dealing with that.

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