How many times all of us has seen – read – heard some incident against a female and felt sickening in our stomachs? How many times have we read and heard about those incidents, showed concern and then simply forgot about them? how many times have we encountered such incident in one of the medias and passed it off as just another sensational news?
Depending upon which question we respond in affirmative determines our perspective against the other sex. Chauvinism as it was known when it all started has mutated. It has mutated in macho-ism, and that too at the expense of the fairer sex. Amazingly men today indulge in feminine practices such as beauty products and jeweleries, but shrieks away from being branded a “Feminist”. I have read a number of columns – blog and books from so-called “Feminists” and have formed my own opinion of it; which is not being just a rebellious female, but being sensitive; being ready to accept and respect qualities that has been labelled as feminine; and for which you do not need to be a female.
Somewhere in the annuls of our history and culture we have turned from a Matriarchal society to a vehemently patriarchal one. One of the prime reason might be that deep inside we males know that we are genetically – physically and mentally much weaker than our female counterparts; and hence an urge to tweak the societal rules and norms to wield the power and suppress the females.
I agree just like all males are not pigs, all females are also not “Adi Shakti” incarnate, but the general trend is that females today are trying to break the shackles and males are afraid, hence started bearing out the fangs more and more. And those who try to object are “Branded” – “feminist” or even worse as eunuchs.
Well though all these thoughts were always there – the outpour was triggered today because of the incident I read in a blog I presently follow – “In her own words” . I read something very similar a few months back – an incident which were followed by lots of action on Facebook too! It even resulted in a cellphone group being formed to step in and help – but has it been sustained? Why didn’t it snowballed into a mass movement? Cant we find some more “Real” men who dare to swim against the tide and stand tall?
If not anything else – are we using our own small little circle of influence and trying to bring some change? Can we see our brothers and son along with our sisters and daughters being taught the right way to behave with a female and what needs to be done if they see someone not doing so? I do try my little bit – hoping to see the change around me – and hope (as always – not “expect” but hope!) to see others I know doing the same.